Kinky Confidence: Want It Or Flaunt It?

I think we can all agree that natural not-overdone confidence looks good on everyone (I think that even if you get off to playing with poor, ill-confident souls, you may appreciate a well-fitted confident person, right?), but how sexually confident are you?

Sexual confidence can be rooted from so many places…it’s interesting to take time to sort it all out. Some people have innate confidence, as it appears to others (though I’m not sure I believe it). Some people have zero confidence, infinitely, as it appears to others (though I’m not sure I believe that either). There’s naturally beautiful sexual confidence — and over-egotistical sexual confidence. Some sexual confidence is built with time, some diminished — some built and diminished and built and diminished….

What do you think can decompose and break down sexual confidence? Could it be a cold lover (take nasty remarks – some affect me deeply, others I flip the finger to) physical changes, life’s stress? What do you think enhances sexual confidence? Could it be an encouraging lover, physical enhancements, or maybe just that one perfect moment in time?

For me, my sexual confidence goes through waves. Believe it or not, I’m most confident in situations where no one around me has insight into “me”…I can dance naked with the best of them in a crowd or be the first one to initiate a one-night-stand. On the other hand, I’ve been known to lose confidence when others are more aware of who I am and have insight into me.

Regardless, I believe sexual confidence is ALWAYS capable of being mastered…

and gets soooooo much better with each victory over those awful confidence-loss bumps-in-the-road!

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My questions tonight:

How sexually-confident-amped-up are you?

Have you always had it? Have you ever lost it?

And, even better…………

What makes or breaks you?

See you online tonight once again at 9pm MST!

~Wonder

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Dom Vs. Sub: Everyone Wins!

I’ve been contemplating the Dom/Sub topic a lot recently. This is a broad topic that ranges from simple Dominate/Submissive personality-type (sexual or otherwise), to the Dom/Sub all-encompassing underground lifestyle, to the professional Dominatrix in the workplace (what a workplace, huh? I can see the book title now: So Now You’re A Dominatrix: The Corporate World and You ).

I feel that because of it’s broad range, everyone can relate to the topic – subtly or not so subtly! Some people are merely dominate or submissive by nature…it doesn’t come out in extremes, but he or she is naturally comfortable with either taking the wheel or sitting in the backseat. Others like to experience the dom/sub relationship in just that – a full-time relationship! Some couples like the deep, dark, seedy, underground environment that takes the dom/sub relationship to the fetish level. Other couples just keep it to themselves in the bedroom. Sometimes, it’s simply the time and the place that sets a scene that wouldn’t otherwise be set. Some individuals prefer to tie a light hanky over their eyes to feel submissive…some prefer to get choked out, thrown down, and whipped!

Still, there are others that experience the absolute level of paraphilia with regard to domination and submission, in which sexual arousal and gratification absolutely depend upon it. This takes dominate/submissive behavior to the utmost psychological level – pain, masochistic humiliation, and sadistic inflictions to name a few – which many times is caused by starved psychiatric desires stemming from any multitude of experiences or genetic contributions.

So…..

My question tonight:

Which do you consider yourself? Dominate? Submissive? Verse?

And, even better…………

How far do you like to take it?

See you online tonight once again at 9pm MST!

~Wonder

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